The Five Freedoms
The Freedom to see and hear what is here, instead of what should be, was, or will be.
The freedom to say what you feel and think, instead of what you should.
The freedom to feel what you feel, instead of what you ought.
The freedom to ask for what you want, instead of always waiting for permission.
The freedom to take risks on your own behalf, instead of choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat.
Virginia Satir